I had a moment on Facebook today where I actually wrote a blog-worthy post there. So, I’m going to just copy and paste it here. Is that cheating?
I was listening to a podcast this morning and a woman was asked what she would tell her younger self. That podcast combined with all the wonderful baby photos on Facebook had me thinking. What would I tell my 30-year-old self, right smack dab in the middle of the toddler years?
I’d say, “It’s ok and normal to be exhausted all the time. You’re not broken, weak or the worst mom ever. You just need a nap or coffee.
I’m sorry you feel like your brain is going to ooze out of your head from having to spend your days talking to a toddler, but it’s better than talking to an adult who still talks and acts like a toddler. You have hope. You can change the world, raise a better adult.
When people demean and belittle you (or you demean and belittle yourself) for being present as a mom and not being able to do all the things, just remember that being present, making the food and cleaning the mess IS THE most important thing you can do today and for the next 18 years.
Stop striving to do more! Stop trying to do more, make more, be more. You ARE AWESOME! You gave birth to people and you are molding human beings – what beats that?
Just be where you are. These precious years with your kids fly by. And you are not stagnant and wasting your skills and talents, YOU ARE growing and changing into a wiser, smarter, better person. You’ll know it’s true when you get those years under your belt and you have those gray hairs.
You’ll have time later to do all the things you think you have to do now. And you’ll have more money, time, age and attention to enjoy them in a deeper, more meaningful way.
Stop worrying. The stuff you worry about never happens anyway and if it does you’ll get through it. Worrying doesn’t prepare you for trouble, it just weakens you and steals your joy. If you worry about it and it happens, then you’ve gone through it twice. And honestly, it’s never as bad as what you imagined because God shows up in the moment, not in your worrying. Worrying just wastes energy, creativity, emotions, and attention that you could be giving to your day and those you love.
Quit feeling like less of a person because you’re an attentive mom and aren’t doing all the things you see on Instagram (they probably aren’t doing them either, haha!).
Quit being afraid.
And thank you for taking the time to raise great people for my grandkids to be friends with, work for, marry and have kids with.”
– From someone on the other side of the parenting small people years.